We live in a riled up world, full of believers that are turning people away from the faith, and causing unbelievers to not want anything to do with us because our attitudes are horrible! The way we say things to each other, in exhortation needs to change. Case in point..
All I talk about these days is that I am going through extensive training with books and audio, videos of Mark DeJesus teachings. I don’t meant to make him an idol, it’s just that he is the only teacher that says what he says that is turning my life upside down, and will put me on the road to recovery in my faith.
I can say, that older audios of his work are almost rude and accusatory, perhaps it was before he had his breakthroughs entirely. He started having things change for him in 2004, and he gave speeches and Pastored up until 2016. I don’t know the date of this audio I am about to mention probably five years ago, but he said in recent videos he went through periods where he wasn’t doing good again, I seriously wonder..lol
Sorry to ramble, but I had to explain. I bought this $31.00 course from him on poverty, and I have listened to three so far of almost two hours each. They are actually sermons he did years ago. Problem is, he speaks from an abrupt, haughty place that sounds like a typical Pastor, like the ones I put up with here in the South. He laughs at things only he gets, and mocks people, all in trying to sound funny, but it wasn’t funny at all.
So when I reflected back on it, I have severe trauma built up, and if people don’t say things nicely when they teach or preach, I have to fight hard to take notes, get the overall message and walk away feeling like garbage.
Now, his new videos you can tell he is fully engaged with God, from the place of love he talks about, and I can’t get enough of the messages and they are life transforming. Why? Because he speaks kinder and more compassionate.
He said when he was messed up eons ago, a woman stood up and prayed for everyone, and looked each one in the eye, and he could feel the healing, and bursts into tears. If people do not speak right, than we will not get what we need.
We live in a day and age where followers of Christ as well as Teachers speak nastily, harsh, cold and brutal to everyone with phrases like:
You need to get right with God
You need to do what God wants
It’s not about you
What you feel or want does not matter
I could go on forever with these horrid, atheist making statements that make you want to bomb the churches and everyone in them. And no , I don’t mean literally, I know we live in bad times here.
When people speak bad, it shows the real condition of their heart and how someone hurt them. Read it again. It is areas God has not been into yet to heal, and it shows, so they rile off legalistic phrases and act like all Christians must act like train seals and perform.
So, I was quite shocked when I had to (and still do since I spent thirty freaking dollars on it) sit through Mark’s long sermons that made me want to poke my eyes out.
How on earth can someone go from a great place in God to a freak? Easy, if you are away from God, if you aren’t plugged in properly, you will sound like a nasty fool. Yes, I am saying it-MOST Pastors today are not hooked up to God properly and are sweating their way through sermons, in pure legalism, but will tell you they don’t believe in works.
Please, do not get me wrong. 90% of Mark’s work is deeply transformative and incredible, he just wasn’t doing it for me personally. His words were fine, his delivery sucked. That is a sore, hard place for me, and I figured I would write about that because I guarantee some of you are going through that also!
Maybe your in a church where your Pastor just can’t stop with the rules and the legalism, and beats a dead horse, but won’t talk from a place of love. MANY Pastors live in that today, probably half of them if not more. It has become commonplace Christianity. So, ha ha, the same person that is changing my views on God entirely is the same one that messed me up for a moment.
The number one thing he says is that we have an enemy that wants us to feel like crap twenty four hours a day, so I woke up in a mood, turned on that audio, and the more I listened the more I felt horrible. Satan and his minions know I am trying to change, so they do everything in their power to make sure the messages fall flat so they are not received. It is unfair and cruel, and takes more work on my part to stop this mess.
I just wanted to point out a painful and obvious problem in the faith-people running their mouths too much from a place of their own personal affliction and not being rooted in God’s love, is a bad place to be! It doesn’t mean what they are saying is necessarily wrong, but it will do little to help.
I had a friend that was Christian these past few years and several times she said rather coldly a few things that really hit me in the gut by her emotional attitude. I don’t hang around her anymore. Christians think they can talk however, and God automatically approves as long as they are talking about him, but that is not true!
The world is watching us, and the reason Christians are hated so much is because of their nasty mouths! Yes, I said it, and I will keep saying it. We have a massive problem with people NEVER watching what they say, and we are supposed to be representatives? Really? This is why nobody wants to convert, and thinks we are awful, and why many will end up in hell now, because when they see us, all they see is hate.
What happens to most of us, is we walk away, think we are the ones that don’t get it, we gloss over it, and beat ourselves up. Than instead of having God fix it, we bury it, repress it, and it ends up destroying us from the inside. We think if we wait, it will get better, but it never does. Something has to free you from it, and believe it or not, it is usually a kind word!
Okay, this is my rant for the day. In the next post, I will actually talk rather fondly of Mark DeJesus, because I have read two of his books, and they are excellent. He has been on a long journey, and is much better now. I can’t hate someone that is saving my life, but I can recognize that the way people speak can be damning, hurtful, traumatic, and push people in to a spiral that causes them to blame themselves, feel unnecessary guilt, and even quit on God.
James 3:5-12 NKJV
Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things. See how great a forest How foolish can you be? After starting your new lives in the Spirit, why are you now trying to become perfect by your own human effort? little fire kindles! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and creature of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by mankind. But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring send forth fresh water and bitter from the same opening? Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Thus no spring yields both salt water and fresh.
How foolish can you be? After starting your new lives in the Spirit, why are you now trying to become perfect by your own human effort?-Galations 3:3(NLT)
I am reminded that Paul spent half his time trying to write to churches that had a problem with the way they interacted with others, it was bringing down the churches and destroying everything. 90% of the NT after the Gospels is Paul teaching churches how not to act, that tells you how big of a problem we have going back centuries with the way we treat each other.
I realized long ago, my words matter! I panic a lot about this blog because I get scared I am not saying things right, and that my words might affect someone negatively. I try to label the categories so people know what to expect. This one is a rant, so expect it to be crazy!
Your words count. They will make or break someone, always remember.