I’m So Done with the Church

As some of you know, I have been going to a new church for months. I have hung on for awhile, even though I never wanted to go back to church. The more I read of grace the more I realize I can’t do this anymore.

Wednesday, I attended the church, and as usual enjoyed the music, and the worship aspect. Lots of times, the sermons are decent, and I even take notes, even though he does preach a mix of law and grace, I gristle through it, and take what I can use. This time though, I had about enough.

The Pastor brought up tithing and kept talking about “seeds to be sown” and he would not let it go. Then he quoted some other Pastor, I forget his name, and said that he told his congregation: “If you are not going to give, don’t even bother coming”. The wind went out of my sails. I am so sick of this crap.

Then he brought up at some point the false lie of communion that you have to confess sins first, and a few other things and I barely made it to the end before I ran out the door. A person cannot learn things, and they unlearn them and go back to bondage. I read Galatians today and was blown over by how the first four chapters had to tell the church that they have not accepted grace and continue to be held in bondage. MOST churches get this entire book wrong, and think they are talking about churches that they hate, but never assume Paul is talking to this one specific church about how law and grace should not mix, and it applies to pretty much every church since then. The poor man only wrote one letter, and nobody understood it except for a few now, and sadly the church still wants to teach law no matter what.

What sickens me is how they smile about it, and get all giddy and self righteous, that they are certain they are hearing from God, but how can you? If you are being deceived by Satan, God does not have nothing to do with it, and you bare being blinded.

I have not found a single, solitary teacher that does not at least say one thing wrong, but I have no tolerance for it anymore.

Getting people to accept grace, that God loves them, that we are in a finished work is beyond pulling teeth. People would rather be negative, be held in bondage and suffer.

As far as tithing goes, I have worried myself sick over it for years, until I read lots about it. There are no scriptures telling us in the NT that we have to tithe 10% or God can’t bless us. There was great generosity given, purely from the heart. I recall in Acts, people put things they owned at the altar, and nobody lacked anything. They did it out of love. But the Pentecost church was much different than what we have today.

The endless guilt trip and long speeches about how you have to give or else, disgusts me. Thankfully, I have found more articles online popping up saying that we should not tithe, like this one: here

Now, thanks to the mess of the church and their never ending lies and refusal of seeking truth, I have to go less or not at all now, and that takes courage since I would have to tell others and face their opinions.

I made a post about boundaries that nobody read recently, and I have to apply boundaries here.

Meanwhile, I am working on my book and want to write about this. I want to know why churches keep falling for lies even though they claim they hear from God. Sounds like a herd mentality. Everybody does the same things through the years, and they adapt it too because if everyone does it, it must be right? I have never thought like that, and the few times I had it led to bad places.

I will write out some of the passages in Galatians that I was talking about:

Galatians 1:

I marvel that you are turning away so soon from Him who called you in the grace of Christ, to a different gospel, which is not another; but there are some who trouble you and want to pervert[a] the gospel of Christ. But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be [b]accursed. As we have said before, so now I say again, if anyone preaches any other gospel to you than what you have received, let him be accursed.

10 For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bondservant of Christ.

11 But I make known to you, brethren, that the gospel which was preached by me is not according to man. 12 For I neither received it from man, nor was I taught it, but it came through the revelation of Jesus Christ.

Galatians 2:

14 But when I saw that they were not straightforward about the truth of the gospel, I said to Peter before them all, “If you, being a Jew, live in the manner of Gentiles and not as the Jews, [g]why do you compel Gentiles to live as [h]Jews? 15 We who are Jews by nature, and not sinners of the Gentiles, 16 knowing that a man is not [i]justified by the works of the law but by faith in Jesus Christ, even we have believed in Christ Jesus, that we might be justified by faith in Christ and not by the works of the law; for by the works of the law no flesh shall be justified.

 I do not set aside the grace of God; for if righteousness comes through the law, then Christ died [j]in vain.”-(v.21)

Galatians 3:

O foolish Galatians!  This only I want to learn from you: Did you receive the Spirit by the works of the law, or by the hearing of faith? Are you so foolish? Having begun in the Spirit, are you now being made perfect by the flesh? Have you suffered so [c]many things in vain—if indeed it was in vain? Therefore He who supplies the Spirit to you and works miracles among you, does He do it by the works of the law, or by the hearing of faith?

Galatians 4:

Now I say that the heir, as long as he is a child, does not differ at all from a slave, though he is master of all, but is under guardians and stewards until the time appointed by the father. Even so we, when we were children, were in bondage under the elements of the world. But when the fullness of the time had come, God sent forth His Son, born[a] of a woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, that we might receive the adoption as sons.

And because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into your hearts, crying out, [b]“Abba, Father!” Therefore you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son, then an heir [c]of God [d]through Christ.

I highlighted certain verses. In Chapter one, he talks about his journey, in four, he talks about the bondservant and the free woman, that is good also. The point is, churches do not want to accept grace, they want the DIY religion of blood, sweat and tears and ignore the true meaning of the Gospel.

I blame the seminaries because they teach wrong and people hear them, and assume they know what they are talking about. That is why we are all messed up! We trusted the wrong people and just assumed they were right because they had studied it. Whatever. Know this-you are being lied to. Accept it, don’t accept it, fine, but the joke is only on you. It is your faith walk, and people have destroyed it. God has taught me these past six months that He just wants me to know Him, to understand he is good, thoughtful and kind, not a sadist who expects me to work night and day for Him.

Some people say don’t make fun of those who tithe and quit being prideful and rude! All I can say is, I have been traumatized, hurt, beaten down, and if I want to be angry about it, anger is not a sin. If you want me to be all kind and rosy, then I will say this then-you want to tithe, go ahead, give as a charity to keep the church open, but when Pastors go on their rants, and they will, pouring on the guilt, lying to you that your will be blessed because of it, and making you feel like an idiot if you dont believe a certain way, than their actions need to be questioned too.

I mean good grief, I have sat through entire sermons from the Baptists on tithing and from what I am seeing, all denominations want to spend hours on this, why? Because they can’t make ends meet if you don’t give! But instead of honestly saying that they need money for them, they make you think it God is telling you to give, and if you don’t, He will ruin your life, and can’t prosper you.

All I know is, I am done. I am tired of being told I can’t feel a certain way anymore when the spirit resides in me this whole time and might even be showing me what is right and wrong. When I went to church the last time, I was not looking for anything bad, I was worried he would say something, but was willing to deal with it, but this time, it was just too much. The last straw maybe.

If I could find local Grace people to hang around with, and form our own church, I would do that, but this is the South. I hate this place with a passion and have no desire to even live here anymore. The south is the worst for wrong beliefs, hardcore tough love crap, and even though they will never admit it, they are miserable deep down.

Update: As I wrote this, I came back later, and had realized I forgot to say that this actually is a case of guarding my heart. It is not just about boundaries, but guarding that which is precious so it does not hurt or confused anymore.